My Turn-Off
What is my "Turn-Off"?
When I ask you a question and your reply is....In fact, I really hate this reply.
Unfortunately, somebody just replied me with that word yesterday. I literally turned-off. I became silent, I was angry and hurt within, especially since I had made it so clear in my last post that that word could piss me off.
Yet I don't hold my anger forever... it always go away before the sunset. But that doesn't mean I forget my lesson.
Never say "Nevermind" again...
Labels: about me
posted at 4/19/2006 01:47:00 AM |
Name: Bee
7 Comments:
I'd be pissed too if i were u :I
Hmmm ... I don't think it happens often to me. And if it does, it doesn't bother me, I view it as their loss in communicating with me.
What turns me off are selfishness, self-centredness and irresponsibleness.
Maybe he just doesn't have the patience to answer or explain. He probably didn't realize the harm his reply will do to you.
Like what Richard said, it reflects the other person's inability to communicate in a way.
I hope you are feeling better now, Bee.
hello all, thanks for your comments and concern. I am ok... I get over unhappiness quite fast. :)
Hmm, that's quite rude actually. I suggest you don't talk to him untill he talks to u, then point out his problem: tell him that it's quite rude to do that. See what he has to say about his actions. If he denys and says you're being petty then to save yourself from getting hurt again, just don't bother talking to him again.
Hope this suggestion helps. :)
Hi, Bee, I hope you feel better now. Perhaps, you need to change your way of communicating with him/her? =) Put it in a different ways will bring different result. I do that to my wifey sometimes, but I explain to her after that. The reason being is that sometime, she is too stubborn to take advice, and if she is being 'not' receptive to idea, will make it hard for me to discuss on certain issue sometimes. =)Any person would feel frustrated and thus leads to 'Never-mind' as an answer to avoid confrontation...=)but of course, not making 'Never-mind' as a habit to communication, because it will make matter worse....I am open to any suggestion or feedback.
It's a habit for this person to say "nevermind" whenever he doesn't feel like explaining things. I have tolerated that for a long time, but for this occasion, I can't take it anymore.
How will you feel if someone ask you to take a look at something, then you take look and ask him what is that about, and he just say "nevermind"?
The word "nevermind" means a lot more than a mere word to gals, especially if it comes from someone close to them. If you are expected to give an explanation and you just say "nevermind", it can means any of the following or more:
you are unreasonable,
you are below my intelligence level to understand what I am trying to say
you don't deserve my time to explain things to you
you will never understand me
I am wasting your time
I don't love you enough
Many couples break up because of this word if it is used too frequently... communication breaks down.
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